If a survivor tells you that a person gives them bad vibes, triggers them, creeps them out, etc. Believe them. Don’t mock them, don’t demand receipts ( 'what did he ever do to you?' Nothing yet, but he talks like my rapist), don’t tell them they’re being prejudiced. 

Believe them, and help them leave the situation. And maybe be careful with your interactions with the other person yourself. Trust the squicky feeling. 

We now return to your regularly scheduled programming. 



When a financial institution asks me my “mother’s maiden name” as a security question. Because it’s assumed that I have at least one and no more than one mother in my life AND that she married AND that she gave up her own name AND that that part of her identity was erased enough from my public history so as to be a password to access my private information.