Pro Tip: Instead of having feelings, try being dead inside. Everything is still horrible but you will not care at all.
dont u hate it when its nine in the afternoon but ur eyes are just normal sized
i feel like mr. brightside is one of those songs you’re gonna hear on the radio in the car 20 years from now after not hearing it in forever and your gonna just start sobbing bUT ITS JUST THE PRICE I PAY DESTINY IS CALLLLINGNG M E and your kids are gonna be like is she okay
If a survivor tells you that a person gives them bad vibes, triggers them, creeps them out, etc. Believe them. Don’t mock them, don’t demand receipts ( 'what did he ever do to you?' Nothing yet, but he talks like my rapist), don’t tell them they’re being prejudiced.
Believe them, and help them leave the situation. And maybe be careful with your interactions with the other person yourself. Trust the squicky feeling.
We now return to your regularly scheduled programming.
When a financial institution asks me my “mother’s maiden name” as a security question. Because it’s assumed that I have at least one and no more than one mother in my life AND that she married AND that she gave up her own name AND that that part of her identity was erased enough from my public history so as to be a password to access my private information.